Thank you and GoodNight

I always said I would continue to blog as long as I knew I would do a good job of it. Blogging once a month was never part of the agenda. I just don't have the zeal to do this anymore. I've made (hopefully) two friends for life out of this blog and I've met (virtually) a lot of lovely people but it's time for me to let this go. I'm not deleting my page, I'm still going to log into blogger every morning like I do and comment on people's posts, I doubt I will make anymore of mine though. So from Pretty Lashes, Thank you and Good night!



 xxPretty Lashesxx

p.s (I've got my masters degree)

Happy New Year!!!

This is just a quick post to wish everyone a fantastic 2012!! I hope you all have a rewarding year.

I can't say I'm a New Year Resolutions kind of girl. I tend to make more resolutions on my birthday, seeing as that's the start of a New Year for me and it just makes more sense, seeing as my birthday is slap bang in the middle of the year.

Anyhow, here's to a fulfilling year on blogger!!!

xxPretty Lashesxx

Ok so I've been away for longer than I'd like to remember, I had to submit my dissertation and I barely had the time to breathe, much less blog.


The submission date was a mess and a half. I'm normally pretty organised with everything I do, this project was not the same for some funny reason. I ended up submitting 10 minutes to the deadline, with work I am not very proud of. This was because my computer crashed about 3 hours to the deadline and I lost about 3000 words.

3000 words. No joke; and I was already on the lower margin of the acceptable word count.


I must have laughed hysterically for a good 20 minutes before I started crying and boy did I cry. I cried so much my eyes were swollen for the following three days. Mr Lashes even shed a tear or two for me. :-)
Apparently I wasn't coherent at all during the three hours before submission. I'm not sure whether it was from brain freeze or lack of sleep seeing as I had slept a grand total of 8 hours in the preceding 9 days.

I managed to do a lot of cutting and pasting from here and there and previous drafts I had made. Its all in Gods hands now. Um If you don't hear me mention Masters by March, take it I've failed and will be quietly licking my wounds.

So I'm finally able to focus fully on my wedding and we've decided to go with a planner, Mr Lashes is worried about things not being coordinated on the day. I kinda get what he means, on one of my sisters wedding days, one of my other sisters got into a fight with the caterer. Good times.

I'm having 400 450 guests. That's all the hall can take so I'm only printing 200 invitations in the hope that the people I invite will be nice enough not to bring an entourage with them. Lets see how well that works. Call me a cheapskate but I just can't justify spending my hard earned cash ( well my dad and Mr Lashes' hard earned cash) on feeding people I don't know. I know weddings are all about sharing love and joy and things of a similar nature but that can be done without bringing your neighbours children with you to a wedding you're invited to.

The decoration business is killing me, it costs the same as the hall to decorate it. How does that even work? I honestly think I'm in the wrong profession. It probably doesn't help that I am an accountant, its in my blood to save costs. I just can't see how they can carry on making so much money from the same tired looking chair covers, sashes and centrepieces.


In other news, one of my friends is proposing to his fiancée tomorrow. He is so nervous its actually funny to watch. It reminds me of when Mr Lashes proposed. I swear if I didn't know the man better than I do myself, I would have thought he was losing his mind for the 30 seconds before I realised what he was trying to do. He actually discussed the weather with me, yes the weather. At Midnight. On New Years Eve.


I think I'm rambling now so I'll leave y'all. for now.

xxPretty Lashesxx

Dear 14 year old Pretty Lashes.....

• That boy you lust over so crazily will NEVER grow taller than 5'5, he is now into credit card fraud and he never did grow into his ears...
• Your mom was right, the people who laughed are you because of your glasses and the way you dressed were just jealous
• Who knew Purple and Orange will be called colour blocking in 2011?
• Life isn't that complicated; I wish you'd smile more
• Food is not the enemy, its OK to eat more than  700 calories in a day
• Your eyebrows are the business, don't get tweezerman happy.
• Embrace your obsession with Sisqo, it will continue well into your 20's
• You don't look like Brandy, quit with the braids.
• That boobage you're hating on right now will be the envy of alot of girls on a few years.
• You will kiss a few frogs along the way but your prince charming; Mr Lashes is waiting for you.

Lots of Love,

xxPretty Lashesxx

I got the idea for this from Glamour Magazine's December edition. If you could go back in time to tell yourself something, what will it be?

Wedding!!

So its finally here, Mr Lashes and I have decided on a date, well tentatively. We are looking at the 25th of August 2012.

It will be in Nigeria, somewhere on the Island and will have 250 guests (verrryyy small by our family's standards). I was considering getting a wedding planner seeing as I don't have anyone who can run around for me but the cost is ridiculous.

So my darling people, I need help. Any ideas for venues (on the island) and their cost? Where can I get decorators (will it really cost me half a million to decorate a hall???) Drinks Stand? Small Chops? Hostesses? Colour Schemes? Basically everything!

I REALLY need help!!

xx Bridezilla In the Making xx

Versatile Blogger Award

My Wonky finger

The lovely Miss toinlicious very kindly awarded me the Versatile Blogger award.

The rules, are to:

•  Thank the person that gave it to you: Miss Toinlicious, you too much!!!
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• Give the award to 15 recently discovered blogs: I haven't been doing much discovering lately so please do this if you haven't already done it, its a fab way of getting to know everyone better!
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• Share 7 things about yourself: 

1. I don't drink coke.EVER: why is it black????
2. I'm incredibly neat, I cannot think in a place where there is mess, I just have to tidy up. Mr Lashes is just as bad as I am, we do 'environmental' twice a month. I sometimes get worried our kids wont live a carefree life, I can seriously picture me threatening my children if they come back from school with messy clothes.
3. My little fingers on both of my hands are never straight, they bend at an awkward angle and whenever they are forced straight, they bounce back straight away.
4. My eyelashes are freakishly long; hence the name Pretty Lashes
5. I have got no recollection of my life before I was 8, all I know is what people have told me and what i see in pictures and videos. I get flashbacks but that's about it. I didn't bump my head or get into accident or anything like that. I just honestly cant remember.
6. I am not looking forward to planning my wedding, I could do without the stress and would rather have a small intimate do. I know this inst going to happen; my mom is involved :-)
7. I've got two tattoos, one of which I regret immensly.

Till next time, my lovely people.;

xxPretty Lashesxx

Sickle Cell Anaemia

September is sickle cell awareness month

I'm aware September is all but over, this is a post I have been planning for a little while but just haven't gotten round to. There have been a few bloggers who have beat me to it so I'm not going to go into the ins and outs of it all.


Miss Ginger invited me to participate  in a survey a little while ago about sickle cell anaemia and its effects on society in general, it made me think long and hard about how people treat people who are 'sicklers'

I have two beautiful friends, both of whom are successful, funny and a joy to be around. One of them has been looking to get married for about 4 years now. She has no problems getting boyfriends, its as soon as they get serious and she presumably has 'the talk' with them, they run a mile. No one wants to be tagged as being married to a 'sickler'.

My question is how DARE them? Who the hell is ANYONE to judge someone else and refuse to be with them as a result of a disorder they have? Tomorrow is promised for NONE of us, the very same guys who are running a mile now could very well contract HIV or terminal cancer in a few years. Would they then feel like they are not worthy of love?


My other friend, I've known since I was 12 years old, she is the smartest, bravest, most beautiful person I have ever met. She used to get so frustrated st Secondary school when people treated her differently because of her health, I remember her always being picked last for sport with me. The only difference is that I didn't actually want to be picked at all (different story for a different day). She is the reason I started giving blood when we moved here at 15. I know there probably next to no chance of my blood being passed on to her but the thought of it helping someone possibly in her shoes is more than enough to keep me coming back

I've also heard the other side of the coin, 'two AS' should not get married, they should not think of having kids as its not fair to the children to feel pain'. I know a couple who where tested and were fine. During further testing when the wife was pregnant, it was discovered that she wasn't in fact AA, she was AS, this put their kid in the 25th percentile of being born with sickle cell anaemia.

 I ask the sickle cell brigade, what should they do? Abort the child who already has fingers and toes, a heartbeat, fully formed organs because it doesn't fit into the norm of what is socially acceptable?

My problem is with the prejudice people have to face everyday over something they have no control over, its simply unacceptable. More emphasis should be placed on the fact that anyone who has this disorder is a person first and should be treated as such.

My name is Pretty Lashes and I'm proud to say that I'm not narrow minded. Can you say the same?


xxPretty Lashesxx




I beg of you all, if anyone is 'AA' and based in the UK, PLEASE GIVE BLOOD, YOU NEVER KNOW WHO'S LIFE YOU MAY BE SAVING.







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London Town is on FIRE

As you are all probably aware, this city, amongst others has been victim to rioting and violence since last Thursday.

Mark Duggan was killed on Thursday by police officers. This was what sparked all the trouble. For those who don't know, UK police officers don't carry guns as standard. There is a specially trained force, called CO19 who are called out as at where needed. They don't ride in cards randomly looking for people to shoot. They have to be requested to arrive to a scene where they believe someone is carrying a gun.

Mark was stopped in a cab on the way somewhere by the CO19 officers. A scuffle started and he was fatally shot.

Now I don't know the ins and outs of what happened, what he did and why he was killed but there must have been a reason why he was stopped by CO19. What started out as a PEACEFUL protest on Sunday by his family and friends which has escalated disgustingly.

Absolutely NOTHING good comes out of  having a gun. I don't care why you have it, the fact that you own a weapon that is capable of causing such devastation is enough reason to be questioned and shot if resisting arrest or attempting to shoot at the police..

People are stealing, rioting, stabbing, all in the name of this man who most likely was carrying a gun.

I walked down my road today, through the high street and almost burst into tears at what I saw. There are a lot of small businesses completely gutted. Some have been burned. I spoke to one of the owners who said insurance wouldn't pay out because this is an act of terrorism. She said she didn't know where she was going to start from.

If the youth have a problem with the police, why attack innocent people? Why take their livelihood and their homes away?  Please take a moment out of your day to pray for those people that have to suffer as a result of the death of this man. Its so sad to think that in less than a year, the eyes of the world will be on us. The eyes on the world are on us now, just for all the wrong reasons. 

xxPretty Lashesxx

Update on my friend

So its been three months since things started going badly for my friend in her marriage. He keeps coming and going. He 'loves' her but he has got about 5 women on the go. His lies to them are gangsta. He obviously has not told any of them about his kids. He is currently unemployed yet somehow these women believe him when he says he owns his own business and that he is 28 (homeboy is 33 and sleeping on his friends bedroom floor).

He asked my friend last week to get back with him and told her that the should consider counselling because he is ready to change. It was during a break in their discussion she saw his facebook messages to the girls.(He wasn't even sleek enough to chat these girls up somewhere else, he was doing it ON his estranged wife's computer). It was only after shit hit the fan she told me that he asked her for a loan not long after he told her he was ready to make their relationship work. Thank God she didn't give him the money but the scary thing is that she told me she genuinely considered it.

This was the kicker for me. I asked her WHY she still even spoke to the man. What exactly is it about this man that she can't seem to let go of because to be honest, there is absolutely NOTHING going on for him on paper. She told me that is was very simple. She couldn't understand why he didn't want her, after everything she had done for him. How can he just stop loving her? She only had to make it clear to him that he was still in love with her.

At that moment, I took a step back because homegirl sounded kind of bunny boilerish. You can't MAKE someone love you. The sad thing about life is that sometimes things just don't work out, you just have to dust yourself and keep moving on.

All hope isn't lost though, I think it has finally dawned on her that it is over. She has started taking a few evening classes to keep her busy, she is moving into a new place soon for a fresh start and she seems to have started picking up the pieces.

Last week she called me excitedly to inform me she met someone else. 'He seems like a really nice guy and is really funny' I told her to stop  imagining their wedding and what their kids will look like. Its just too soon. Besides, she needs to focus on sorting her head out because to be honest, if you don't love yourself, no one will love you.

xxPretty Lashesxx

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I'm alive!, Seriously this time, Thank God!

*Dusts off cobwebs*

Hello People,

I been a bad BAD girl, I haven't forgotten I have a blog, I just been so busy at work, I literally come home  just to sleep.

Our system at work crashed a couple of weeks ago so yours truly was sent to our Sussex branch to work. I've been driving for 4 hours a day for the past 2 working weeks. I only live 15 mins away on the bus from our head office so needless to say the HELLISH commute has been an eye opener.

I have so much to share with you lovely people.

 First things first, yours truly got into an accident. Thank God I didn't have to pay on my insurance excess but more importantly, thank God I didn't kill another man's child.

The steering wheel on my  beloved mini' 'Pepito' (yes I know I have too much time on my hands to name my car) failed. The steering wheel literally locked in the middle of a HUUUGGGEEE roundabout.

I saw my life flash before my eyes (to be entirely honest,  I saw my insurance excess fly before my eyes). I really thought this was the end of it all. I was millimetres away from hitting the car in front of me. Thank God I didn't.

GreenFlag came to take me and my car to the place I bought it from. The guy told me it would cost £2000 to fix because the 'power steering pump of mini's are different to others'. I looked at him up at down and then looked at Mr Lashes (who by the way was looking at me like 'na you wan buy mini, it no be my problem'). I told the man that I am broke an accountant and the £2000 would be better spent on another car.

 I started kicking up a fuss because he must have sold me the car in that condition. I mentioned 'Trading Standards' and 'Consumer Rights' (not that I have a clue what either of them mean) so he offered me another car as a part exchange.

The new mini is a newer and much nicer model but its gold. Yes Gold (well Champagne coloured). Lets just say I took it before he withdrew his offer without looking at the colour properly.  Every time I walk past it, I have to do a double take, Its sooooo bright. The only positive things about the colour are that :

1. It would NEVER get stolen.
2. I can't lose it in a parking lot.

So yeah, Pepito is no more. the new car is called Pepito 2

Hope you are all doing well.

xxPretty Lashesxx